Often times we are programmed to think that children should just obey their guardians without question. We impose rules and guidelines for them to follow with the hope that this alone will prevent or deter them from unwanted behaviors. However, thinking of the emotional needs of the child usually isn't at the forefront of our minds, but we need to change that.
As an educator, I have been trained to teach to the whole child inclusive of their social-emotional needs. Studies show that this type of learning allows for reductions in bullying and promotes increases in academic achievement. Furthermore, Committee for Children reports that "People with strong social-emotional skills are better able to cope with everyday challenges and benefit academically, professionally, and socially. From effective problem-solving to self-discipline, from impulse control to emotion management and more, SEL provides a foundation for positive, long-term effects on kids, adults, and communities." Proving how essential it is to focus on building a child's emotional wellbeing.
When at home, I practice social-emotional learning in the form of praise. At its root, praise is a form to illustrate approval of and foster positive self image. For instance, when my three year old cleans up her toys after playing, I will usually provide a verbal praise such as "Great job cleaning up your toys.". To add, praise shows children how to speak affirmations to themselves as well as influences good behavior. Since my child is younger, it is essential that I set a loving foundation in which she feels confident to be herself, making praise a useful tool in this process.
Moreover, praise teaches children how to develop proper coping skills. When children are feeling down or struggling with tasks, they can use positive affirmations to help improve their moods. Thus, creating a pattern of sound emotional regulation. From my experience, this translates in the classroom during spats with peers, stress during a test, or in instances where a child is having a bad day.
In sum, praise shows care and affection. Children need to experience praise to be able to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance within the family unit. Be careful and intentional with praise.
Need more information on the benefits of positive reinforcement? Read below
Positive Reinforcement: What Is It And How Does It Work?
How to Use Positive Reinforcement in the Classroom
https://mybrightwheel.com/blog/positive-reinforcement-in-the- classroom#:~:text=Positive%20reinforcement%20is%20an%20essential,behaviors%20or%20strengthen%20existing%20ones.
How Positive Reinforcement Encourages Good Behavior in Kids
The Do’s and Don’ts of Praising Your Child https://evergreenpsychotherapycenter.com/the-dos-and-donts-of-praising-your-child/
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